How do we heal a broken heart? If you had endless hours, and didn’t mind the advice you got; you could turn to Google. For the heck of it, I googled “how do you heal a broken heart?” There were approximately 1,400,000 responses. Might take a while to get through all that advice. There is a better way.
Are you struggling or dealing with being brokenhearted today? Looking at the number of responses from Google it appears you are not alone. Nope, its something we all go through during different times in our lives.
There are times it seems like we are in the never-ending story of heart brokenness. You think to yourself what can I do to make this stop? Will this pain ever go away? Perhaps you were betrayed or cheated on, or you are having relationship issues with friends or family members. Maybe you’ve lost someone and you feel you can’t ever move on. Sound familiar?
Psalm 34:18 says “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” In the midst of your brokenness it’s comforting to know that the Lord is near, though it may not always feel like it, and you may feel so alone.
The Lord understands when we are brokenhearted. How it must have broken his heart when one friend betrayed Him, and others abandoned Him when He needed them most. One thing He didn’t do, was hold the pain inside and simmer in hurt or resentment. He forgave those who had done Him wrong. He forgave Peter who had denied Him three times. Can we do any less? We are called to forgive even as we are forgiven.
Sometimes our brokenness comes from losing someone, or something. Perhaps, there is nothing we can do to change the circumstance. Or maybe its a relationship that was broken and the person has died, so it can never be fixed. Or, they are alive but want nothing to do with you, and don’t want to work things out. Sometimes its an ongoing situation. Those relationship problems just don’t seem to change and you can’t understand what to do. Every time you think about it you get hurt all over again. Perhaps you have a child or a loved one who is walking a path that will only lead to more heartache. What can we do?
The first thing we must do is run to the Lord. He wants to help heal our hearts and show us how to move on. Psalm 147:3 tells us ” He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”. And Psalm 62:8 says “Trust in Him at all times, you people; Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.”
The Lord wants us to run to Him and tell him what is hurting us. He is our refuge, and our safe place and strong tower. He will work on our behalf. If God be for us; who can be against us? We need to do as Psalm 55:22 tells us: “Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved”.
Some situations we may have given to the Lord more times than we can remember. The problem is, when we give our burden to the Lord, we need to leave it with Him to work out, and not take it back. The situation may never be resolved in the way we think would be best. We need to trust God that He will work it out in the way that is best for us.
If someone you love is going through something like this right now, this is one of those times you can help carry their burden. Pray for them, comfort them, be with them; even if in silence. I love Proverbs 25:20 “Singing cheerful songs to a person with a heavy heart is like taking someone’s coat in cold weather or pouring vinegar in a wound.” When helping others through hard times, be led by the Holy Spirit. Everyone handles things differently, and while one person may need your counsel, others may just need you to be there.
One thing we can be sure of. God never lies. He says He will never leave us or forsake us. No matter what we may be going through, He walks through it with us.