Expectations. We all have them at some point or another.But what do we do with them? When we were kids we expected to get a certain toy for Christmas because well we asked Santa so why wouldn’t we? We expected that our parents would always be around. We expected we would go to school, make friends, do well at our studies etc. With most of us some of our expectations came to pass, some did not.
Its no different as an adult.. Maybe you were expecting to get that promotion at work or that new job. Or, maybe you were expecting that your family would always be close. Or that your close friends from when you were young, or people you connect with at work would always be your friends. Sometimes we expect someone to get healed and they aren’t.
You might expect your life will go on like it has been and then maybe you lose that job or get that divorce, or you find yourself facing any one of thousands of different scenarios that you never thought you would face. Then what?
Not all expectations are bad. Its good to have hope and expect good things to happen. The problem is sometimes our expectations go against what is best for us and sometimes they are at odds with other peoples expectations. When we put our expectations on others and they don’t follow through the way WE thought they should it can lead to all kinds of emotions. This has been an area where I have struggled a lot over the years. I believe it can be a stronghold in our minds. I have had times when things didn’t happen as I hoped or expected and I was hurt, and angry and bitter. And the more I dwelt on how hurt I was the more I sank into self pity. Not a good place to be. The Bible says in James 3:16 For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.
In the book Breaking Free by Jack Frost he talked about mental strongholds and what they do to us. A couple statements he made really hit home. He said “They (mental strongholds) can make straight thinking difficult by guarding our weak spots with false feelings and emotions. He also said they cause us to draw negative conclusions as to how we relate to people and that these are habitual lies that need to be overthrown. He had a lot to say about it I recommend the book!
When we find we are meditating on these lies and expectations that are not from God we need to do what it says in 2 Cor 10:5. Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. Just because we have a thought come in our head does not mean we have to take it or say it or meditate on it. We should ask ourselves, where is the thought coming from? The enemy loves to plant negative thoughts about ourselves and others in our minds. When I cast those thoughts down and say NO that’s not my thought and I’m not taking it; I don’t get into all that mess. Sometimes I have to say it many times until my mind believes it.
God has good plans for all of us. When we spend all our time upset about what we don’t have, but want, or we have and don’t want; it doesn’t leave room for God to do what He wants to do in our lives. I will leave you with one expectation that will help you every time.